1. Clover believes that one of the reasons that death is such a scary topic for people is because no one talks about it in Western society. Were you apprehensive about reading the book because it was about death? How did you feel about the topic once you read the book?

2. When Grandpa died, Clover was diagnosed with “chronic grief” because she hadn’t “gotten over” her grief within six months. Why do you think this diagnosis bothered her so much and do you think that grief should be seen as a finite thing to be overcome?

3. Clover is seen as a “loner” in society, yet she is emotionally intelligent and good with people. Why do you think this disconnect exists? Why is it so hard for her to connect with people outside of a professional context?

4. Sebastian states that his fear of death came partly from his religious upbringing. How did your upbringing and family traditions shape your feelings about death and mortality?

5. What do you think are the most important lessons Clover learned from her clients about how to support someone who is grieving or dying?

6. Clover tries to learn from other people’s regrets but ignores most of her own. What are some of your regrets that you’ve been avoiding that you might be able to take action on? Is there something you’ve always wanted to do?

7. When Clover finally acknowledges her regrets, one of them is that she regrets “living out of habit”. What does that mean to you?

8. Leo tells Clover, “...the secret to a beautiful death is living a beautiful life.” How would you define what it means to live a beautiful life?

9. If today were your last day on earth, which of Clover’s three notebooks – Advice, Regrets, or Confessions – do you think you would end up in and why?

10. Claudia tells Clover to be “cautiously reckless”. What do you think she means by that?